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WHY CAN'T WE ALL BE HAPPY?



This week I was involved in a couple of negotiations. I had to find a middle ground, somewhere that made sure everyone was happy. I was so emotionally invested on finding that place so I put a lot of thought and work into it. After thinking and negotiating for a while, I had to settle that there was no middle ground. It was heart breaking. All my work, sweat and time was wasted. I was sad, but I wasn't the only one that felt bad with the outcome. The party I was bargaining for wasn't particularly happy as well. It hurt to see that I couldn't help. Like most humans that turn into philosophers on social media, this situation led me to think 'why can't we all be happy...?', 'why can't we all be happy at the same time?'


After much soul searching I came to accept what I've always known but never wanted to admit. We can't all be happy, at least not all at once. For some people, their happiness lie at the beginning of someone else's sadness so to make those kind of people happy, you'd have to take away another person's happiness 😣. For others they want difficult things like world peace, the end of global warming and stuff like that. It's really difficult to find happiness when what you want doesn't entirely depend on your actions alone. While for some people like me, this life is just a pot of beans. They have to sacrifice happiness to do what's right or sacrifice present happiness for possible future happiness... and so many other reasons.

 So can we all be happy? Well... maybe, but probably not all at once 😧.


Comments

Henry said…
Sad reality.The absolute randomness of our activities makes this reality extremely impossible to override.Sad.
16 May 2018 at 15:47
Unknown said…
I'll just have to be happy many times 😁
17 May 2018 at 07:30
Aigbe Ehis I said…
Realistic POV. Some semblance of happiness can also be found in fulfilment too. lovely write up, thanks.
19 May 2018 at 11:44
Unknown said…
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20 May 2018 at 17:50
Unknown said…
The relatively qualitative measures of happiness makes it absolutely unrealistic to measure, but you have managed to simply encapsulate it in this post. Well done
20 May 2018 at 17:53
Chidubem Modilim said…
The best thing is just to find happiness in all that you do. While it's is not possible for everyone to be pleased at the same time, it is possible to find inner joy in all situations, no matter how dire and deplorable the situation is
24 May 2018 at 08:01
Unknown said…
The veracity of this write up is Curt and filled with truisms
8 June 2018 at 19:23
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