MARRIAGE

Let's start this piece with a little thinking exercise

When you think of weddings, what pictures usually come to mind?

Probably something like this ▲

Or this ▲. But hardly something like this ▼

Here's the fun reality about marriages. As fun as the attention, the gifts, the flowers, the sometimes expensive rings, THE LOVE! the jaw dropping dress and the really snazzy suit may look on the "wedding day"; more often than not, that's all it ever gets to be 😞. Few years down the line, (if it ever gets to last that long) all those things would be faint memories of what had been. At that time, guess what remains? the person! The one that you promised to love, to have and to hold and all that overflogged wedding vow mantra 😞. He/she is the one left behind. The reality that you'd be left with. 

Now forgive my tone, this might actually be a good thing if you got together for the "right reasons" and have been able to tolerate each other that long 😂. But when you're stuck with this person for random reasons like family pressure, getting knocked up, family pressure because you got knocked up, THE FEAR OF "ETERNAL LONELINESS" and stuff; your reality might just be one of regret. The last picture without the hand holding but with both hands struggling to break away from the cuffs and if eventually successful, with scarred wrists; That my friend, would become your reality. 😟

Marriage is indeed a beautiful thing. Some might even say the best thing. But beyond all the folklore, the "badazzle" of the event or the love you share initially, there are 2 people, who are probably totally different in all ramifications on earth. The question now becomes, are you willing to put aside all that differences and live with that person FOREVER? Or rather for as long as you live however long that might be 😊? If the answer is not an unwavering yes, you probably don't want to walk down the aisle with that person, not yet at least. You probably want to spend that time alone, building yourself, probably start a blog like I did to pour out your idle thoughts 😂 or you probably want to chase those dreams! build that dream house, buy that car, break that world record or something. But here's what you don't want to do, you don't want to cuff yourself to someone that you aren't a thousand percent sure you want to be with for the rest of your life ! 😇

So that's what Edna thinks. Tell me what you think, leave a comment below.